Most of you know I have a casual interest in sports (if you define 'casual' as foaming-at-the-mouth-throwing-things-at-the-TV-not-speaking-to-my-family-while-i"m-watching-sports. Then yes, it's a casual interest.) But it goes beyond casual (see above) especially when I'm watching the Pittsburgh Steelers--or "super stillers" as we know them in western PA.  But now, I'm  just heartsick over recent news--Big Ben Roethlisberger has been accused of sexually assaulting a college student in a small Georgia town.  Seems he was out bar hopping late one night with a bunch of body guards, and the girl made the accusations after he left. We of course need to wait for the outcome, he is innocent until proven guilty, but it is depressing nonetheless. And the one comment I've heard the most in discussion is that even if he didn't do it and this is a result of his notoriety, he should have had more sense than to put himself in a position where these kinds of charges could be brought against him. 

As I thought about that, somewhere in the deep recesses of my mind were words from the Bible struggling to the surface.  When these things finally make their way out, they always come out in King James English for some reason. These were: "Avoid all appearance of evil." I guess that doesn't sound very old English, but trust me, it is.  Paul writes it in 1 Thessalonians 5:22.  I think it's pretty applicable here.

Avoid (stay away from, like the plague) all (all) appearance (anything that looks like, smells like, acts like--it's a duck) of evil (bad things). If you couple this with what we've said recently about taking God's name (identifying with God and his character) in vain, that we should be bringing honor to God's name in everything we say, think and do, then I think Big Ben would have done well to employ this principle.  Stay away from anything that even remotely looks like evil or has the potential to evil.  Don't drag God's name (which you carry) into anything that resembles badness. Be a good representative, ambassador. Take this serious enough that you're willing to put aside anything that has evil connotations. Had Ben put that into practice, he might not have been in the situation he is now.

We need to be careful with that, when I was a kid that verse was used against all kinds of activity (don't drink, or smoke or chew or run around with gilrs who do) that ' not sure should really be considered evil.  And it's not a verse you should probably be applying to someone else other than yourself (like I just did to Ben...) But I do think we should be asking ourselves, "If I am a real, genuine, follower of Jesus, does this behavior (whatever that might be) reflect well on him?" 

To Ben: I hope these accusations aren't true. I wish you had stayed home and played scrabble that night. 
 


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Kelly
03/10/2010 11:05am

WELLLLLL, as a Ben fan myself it takes 2 to tango. Who has been to a night club lately? I haven't (too old) but I have seen the kids standing in line at a night club and those girls dress (and act) like they want more than a dance! SO in Big Ben's defense and anyone else in that situation. You play to pay and that girl should have been home playing scrabble too. I speak from experience on that one without saying to much about my past that is, HA!! When I got married all that changed and I did follow the "proper" way of acting by not putting myself in situations that would lead to me wishing I was home playing scrabble. I could say now well THAT didn't do me any good because look what happened anyway. But I like to think God is pleased with my character and I have no regrets. Also, as I read this story it reminds me of all the kids we know getting ready to go on spring break and that scares me to death! Something happens to your brain when you are that age and in that environment no matter how grounded in your faith you are. So if you have ANY influence over your kids college tuition I would say (again from experience) NO YOU CANNOT GO!!!!!

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Nicki Ramsey
03/10/2010 11:30am

But aren't we supposed to reach out to sinners? I'm not saying "do as they do" but we're supposed to be able to go to places like clubs, bars etc and represent Jesus, especially to people in need. Look at Corey Haim that just passed away today. He has been a drug addict that ran around the club scene for many years. What if a Christian was in a club at the same time as him had reached out to him? Would he still be alive? I haven't read the Ben story, and if he behaved inappropriately than shame on him, but I don't think that we should avoid places where sinners inhabit. That's where we're supposed to be! And I agree with Kelly- With all of the sex-slave & human trafficking that is happening, all women need to make sure they're being safe in those type of situations.

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Scott
03/11/2010 11:08am

Isn't it frustrating to see those that God has given such talent get in so much trouble? Just add Ben (or continue to add Ben) to the list of "superstars" who get in trouble. As a sports fan (but not a fanatic like Jim...oops...I think I just broke a commandment...the one about lying...), it really bothers me to see behavior that does not honor God.

I agree with Kelly that it "takes two to tango" and I am not convinced that Ben is just a target...someone looking to get rich quick through a lawsuit or a big settlement. But, shouldn't Ben and his people know better by now? This isn't the first time he has been involved in such accusations. I agree with Jim that it would be better for Ben to not put himself in the position to be accused!

I'm just glad that VIKING players do not behave in this way.....as I conveniently forget about the whizzinator incident...and the "love boat" incident....and....

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Jim Miller
03/11/2010 12:05pm

I'm really glad you brought that up Nicole,because that is the other side of this that needs to be kept in balance. We do need to be places where the lost are, we need to be in relationship with people and love them. I'd see nothing wrong with going with a friend to a bar or club, I could see Jesus going there. And maybe it has to do with the reputation of the bar or club too. I went and heard Steve Mitchell play at Club Red and didn't feel like I was appearing to be evil. But could I honestly go to a strip club? Probably not,regardless of my motives, the appearance of evil is just too great. I used to tell my kids that nothing good happens after midnight (ok that's a broad generalization). I guess the principle is to be careful about putting yourself into a situation that will be viewed negatively? I love it that you brought this up!!

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